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Making Those Tough Parenting Calls: What Would YOU Do?

Originally this month’s blog was going to be on navigating fitness in the 3rd trimester but fellow moms…I am struggling with some things and I’d love to know what you would do!

I think too often we as moms are expected to have or know all the answers in regards on how to help our kids and don’t always ask for help when we need it.

We just started kindergarten and with that this mom right here is having some trouble on what to do and how to handle certain situations.

Instead of feeling isolated right now, I am choosing to speak up and hopefully not feel so alone in navigating what to do if your child is sick or just doesn’t want to go to school.

Back to school colds and sickness are starting to make the rounds and recently they’ve hit our house. Honestly, it hasn’t been bad (knocking on all the wood right now) and we have had a few coughs and runny noses. Much better than our start to preschool last year!

The Struggle of Hard Parenting Choices: What Would You Do?

I didn’t feel bad keeping my child home from school during preschool if he wasn’t feeling great and ultimately his love of seeing his friends usually won out even on the days he might not have been 100% (not talking fever, etc.)

How do I handle a case of my child potentially not wanting to go to school?

As far as I know, school has been going great! My child is making friends, loving his teacher, and enjoys learning (even telling me all the things they do each day!)

However this last week has been different.

One day I made him go to school last week when he said he was tired and didn’t feel like going. (Working on earlier and earlier bedtimes here!) No fever, no headache, definitely some cold symptoms but nothing major- overall spirits were pretty high until it was time for school. I got him there and when I picked him up he seemed to have had a great day!

Now the next day, I got home in the morning from coaching and walked into a scene of a 6 year old melting down repeatedly going back and forth saying he doesn’t want to go to school and that he doesn’t feel good. Again no fever, no other major symptoms in which I would keep him home for. I had to pick him up and carry him to the car. This took a while so I had to sign in to school to take him to the classroom where we stood outside because he was so upset.

At this point my mom heart is just shredded.

My child says he doesn’t feel good and I’ve got to trust that maybe today isn’t the day to push. His teacher came to talk with us and of course I start crying also. Hot mess all the way around. I just want to do the right thing and sometimes that’s such a hard call to make.

In speaking with him I decided to take him home so he could sleep and hopefully start to feel better. Which he seemingly did which of course makes me think about my decision. (Overthinker here!)

While I realize this is Kindergarten, I also want him to know that just because he may not feel like doing something that we are accountable for going to or doing things even if they are hard or we may not want to. I want him to know that I am here for him to talk with me and I am ready to listen to his concerns without judgement. If he is truly sick of course I keep him home but what if you can’t tell if it’s sick or doesn’t want to go?

What would you do?

My parents always had me go to school unless I was really sick. There were days I clearly remember not wanting to go but went regardless.

I know there will be varying opinions on what to do and what not to do and I am sure there is no right answer except to continue to help guide him.

Support him.

Listen to him.

Hear him.

Love him.

Please tell me though I am not alone here and how you might have gotten through similar situations?

Thank you from a mom trying to do her best!

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One Response to Making Those Tough Parenting Calls: What Would YOU Do?

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    Nicole November 1, 2019 at 9:22 am #

    You are a great mom to be sensitive to these things. When my son was in 6th grade, last year for elementary in our area. He missed for 20 days of school. His teacher was a bully, the administration did nothing to help, and on bad days I just let him stay home. As a single mother, I had little resources to change the situation. I also distinctly remember HATING school and I was a model student with lots of friends. I tried to get out of going all the time. So no judgment on letting him stay home when he needs to.

    Maybe you need to ask some questions. Did something happen that scared him? Did a child tell him they could not play with them anymore? Did he do something wrong and get yelled at no matter how minor? Did a big kid threaten him? Is there something he is struggling with at school like learning sounds of the alphabet? Does he need more one on one time with you? Does he need more sleep because of a growth spurt? Trying to figure out out what is sucking the joy put of kindergarten is the key.